Mindmapping is a technique I learned a long time ago. While this is not one of mine, it certainly illustrates the multitude of thoughts and habits needed to live among the 5 pillars of health. It all sounds so easy at first. Mind, Water, Breath, Nutrition, & Exercise.
Now, if you look at all the little tiny branches, you begin to see habits that we need to establish or change with each part and piece of each pillar.
OMG! Overwhelming, isn’t it.
THEN something like this happens
The “Willpower is like a muscle” quote is out there in several variations….
The more you train it, the stronger it gets
The more you use it, the stronger it gets
It requires training to strengthen it
It gets stronger the more you exercise it
Even with the most self-esteem and self-confidence, seeing this and reading the quote with it, can plant a seed that we need to try harder. Push your will power. Then that stupid little voice inside starts to argue with the esteem and confidence voice. It’s just an excuse, your not trying hard enough, your not enough, your lazy, no wonder your fat, blah…blah….blah…. The negative things we say to ourselves becomes just as overwhelming as the mind map of the pillars of health.
I found a little secret that is working for me
No, this isn’t about yoga and the spiritual, soul side, the whole “let it go” , there is no ego in yoga, it’s about the study of and psychology of willpower
Have you heard of “ego depletion”? Basically, in a nutshell, it means everyone has a limit to their own willpower. Once it’s gone, it becomes very difficult to focus and we succumb to temptations, especially the ones we are trying to avoid. Further defined (taken from wikipedia) Ego depletion refers to the idea that self-control or willpower draws upon a limited pool of mental resource that can be used up. In addition, a depleting task requiring self-control can have a hindering effect on a subsequent self-controlled task, even if they are unrelated.
I found this term while reading one of S.J. Scott’s habit books! My first S. J. Scott book was “Habit Stacking: 97 Small Life Changes That Take Five Minutes or Less
and I can honestly say it was the finishing touch of the things I already knew because it helped me to put action behind it. I highly recommend his blog – Develop Good Habits. My first habit change was simple. Making the bed every day. It sounds so simple but how it changed many other things is amazing!
In all my years of blogging, and honestly, years before that, I admired and even desired to be more organized, yet avoided routine, believing from my creative artist point of view, that routine and structure was not in my make-up and would stifle my creativity. I am learning that is the farthest thing from the truth.
When you study people who are successful, whether that is in the health and fitness arena, the business arena, or other avenues of pursuit, one of the top 5 qualities is consistency and commitment. I am learning it is a heck of a lot easier to follow those qualities with the habits needed. So, as a forewarning, I will be talking a lot more about this whole stacking habits concept in upcoming posts. But here is a blast from the past that actually brings this full circle for me and brought me to tears!
Back in November 2012, I wrote a post about Spinning my Wheels and references the Wheel of Life I learned about while involved with a personal coach and highly considering my own business practice of being a personal life coach. If you go back further in my archives, my first posts in July of 2009, were the Slice of Life Diet posts utilizing each of the slices on the wheel. THAT was my entire intent behind my blogging.
What I combined with that wheel of life theory was my own definition of GOALS™ Good Orderly Actions Leading to Success. What I missed was the actions needed to become habits first! Goals need to coincide with your values and your personality. Our habits don’t always lead us in the same direction.
What do you think of the term “ego depletion”?
Now the challenge, pick a tiny, tiny habit that is not about body image, weight, or strength…..
What is it and what area on the wheel of life does it fall into?