Comments on: Relationships – How Do They Stretch You

By: All Women Stalker

All Women Stalker — Wed, 03 Mar 2010 13:44:33 +0000

I ceased trying to change myself for my partner. I’m loving myself despite what the other person says. And it’s very freeing. Now, I really hope my boyfriend learns to love himself. He’s so deep into self-hate or something that I’m sad about it sometimes. I have a lot of love to give him but I also want him to learn that there is so much to love about him. I’m not forcing him in any way. But I am trying to tell him bits and pieces of what I’ve learned from blogs like yours.

By: June Catholic Pagan

June Catholic Pagan — Tue, 02 Mar 2010 16:09:52 +0000

When I met my,now husband, the first night he told me he didn’t date “fat” women. I had gained 50 pds in five years, was older but also was more spunky about my good qualities for offering in a loving relationship. We hung out anyway because the laughs and sex was too good to give up. Fast forward to 13 years later and THE best loving relationship I’ve been in in my entire life. Big women are not invisible if they are confident and happy within self. Relationships, a wise man once told me, that is how we grow. It’s easy to stay with our own image of life until tested by a relationship to move into unknown areas. Thanks, Julie, your blogs are a wonderful time to reflect, remember and regroup. Blessed be.

By: Kathleen

Kathleen — Tue, 02 Mar 2010 04:52:14 +0000

I started my blog in part because of the discomfort I was feeling after having lost about 65 pounds — I was no longer invisible!

By: My Lipstick Life

My Lipstick Life — Tue, 02 Mar 2010 01:08:06 +0000

We have so much in common! Attention from men send me flying to the Oreos too. Even my husband’s (sexual)attention can stress me out and make me want to hide in the fat. And of course this is a big residual effect of losing weight. He is all over me like a cheap suit! I just have to breathe and keep telling myself how grateful I should be that it is me that he wants. Oh, baggage, why can’t we leave you behind?

Great post, Julie.

By: Diane Fit to the Finish

Diane Fit to the Finish — Mon, 01 Mar 2010 22:37:42 +0000

The Ruby shows are so touching to me, as I just love how she really works at being honest with who she is, where she has come from, and who she wants to be.

I’m glad that you have a great, supportive man in your life. That’s a gift that you just can’t put a price tag on!

By: Jody - Fit at 52

Jody - Fit at 52 — Mon, 01 Mar 2010 19:39:46 +0000

I realize he cannot rescue me. I am the only one who can do that.

As always, a very thought provoking post! You are very lucky to have this man in your life & to be working on you. That is what is most important.

I am very lucky with my hubby as he loves me for me although I have never been heavy with him so I guess I could test this.. not!

Thx so much for sharing with us!

By: Gigi

Gigi — Mon, 01 Mar 2010 18:31:19 +0000

Oh dear, you’ve gone and touched another nerve. Don’t even get me started about the man “rescuing” me from myself. I think that’s why I’m in the mess I am right now. I really agree with you about the state of our relationships and our own lives. Trouble always seems to start when we (I, of course, mean me!) don’t keep the two separated. Relying on someone to make us happy or rescue us usually backfires big time.

By: Renee W.

Renee W. — Mon, 01 Mar 2010 17:24:30 +0000

I was always a skinny girl until I had a bad relationship & then got married. I think I fell into that “comfortable” stage & never got out of it. I always thought it was weird that breaking up can usually lead to weight loss.

By: Wendy (The Local Cook)

Wendy (The Local Cook) — Mon, 01 Mar 2010 16:10:12 +0000

I was actually very skinny up until things started getting rocky in my first marriage. Then I gained and lost about 40 pounds. I was at my fittest when XH left me. I was skinny when I met DH, but we both put on the pounds during our first year together. However, he got me fit in terms of exercise. We are both fairly active but need to work on portion control. We are in this together, and are able to support each other.