As I approach that time of year, when I reflect and make plans for my future,
There is one HUGE beacon of light that is shining down on me
Falling in Love
Yes, I got married this year, integrated a whole new group of people to my fold.
My life is different, enriched, and certainly not what I expected by
Falling in love
But there is a different feeling around this love
It is the sense of melding in my heart
I look forward to those moments alone, hours of endless conversations,
making plans to meet up,
just sitting silently reveling in that feeling.
Oh and the countless hours of planning for a future together.
Do you remember that moment when you just “knew” you had fallen hard?
You just knew this is the one you wanted to spend the rest of your life with?
It is certainly not the person, or even the life, I had envisioned as a young girl
yet, it is exciting, new, frustrating yet calming at the same time
Ah….falling in love
There is a line in the movie, As Good as it Gets, when Jack Nicholson says:
“You make me want to be a better man”
and I believe that sums things up…
when you truly fall in love it makes you WANT to be a better person
Not searching to be better to get something
But truly, honestly, from the heart WANT to be better
That is what falling in love feels like
One of the greatest feelings ever
and the difference this time
It’s me. Yep, this falling in love isn’t just about my husband and my family
Yep, as I reflect on my year…I am falling in love with me…the whole me
I WANT to be a better person
and that means taking care of my health, my food choices, my activity choices, and the way I present myself to the world….
I am enjoying spending time getting to know me
I look forward to the time spent IN MY BODY instead of loathing it
I look in awe to the new conversations I have with myself
I take the time to plan my next step
I am looking at life through new lenses…….and I am excited about all of this
Yes…falling in love…
What can YOU do today to start that relationship and fall in love with YOU all over again?
Speaking of falling in love — I’ve fallen in love with this post! You know you’ve fallen in love with the right person when it helps you fall in love with yourself. And I suspect falling in love with ourselves is a prerequisite for making and maintaining self-nurturing lifestyle choices. I’m SO happy for you.
Love is where it’s at!! It was being loved purely and unconditionally by Tim that started to open my eyes to the fact that I didn’t love myself. Once we start to love ourselves that way (purely and unconditionally) it opens up worlds we never imagined! You GO girl!
“I am falling in love with me…the whole me…”
That really stuck out to me, and brought a smile to my face.
What a great post!! I’m a relatively newly-wed, as well, (January of last year) and I GET IT. Having been through marriage and divorce before, I am in LOVE with the relationship my hubby & I have. We each know what we DON’T want, and tell each other every day how much the other is loved and appreciated, etc….
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Such a wonderful post! Enjoy your new romance with yourself! xx
Yet another great post. Sadly I’ve never been in love (yes, at 43 years of age)! Not even with myself… but I think a better acceptance of myself will be a focus for 2012!
Deb
Not easy and must keep the old niggling thoughts of “…I should do more” …”I failed again” at bay. My daily readings, and me time helps keep somewhat of a balance in my busy schedule. It’s funny how age and health needs can push one to a loving space of self.