Action Affirmations

As promised, I am continuing my thoughts on the positive thinking trap.  I agree with the premise of positive thinking HOWEVER, it is only a third of the equation.

This life is our own.  We are the director while the collective us is our production company.  If the focus becomes just changing the way with think, then it can become a trap;  If the focus becomes just changing the way our body looks and feels, then that can become a trap; If the focus becomes just our spirit, our inner values and beliefs, then that can become a trap too.

It takes action (movement) in ALL these areas to make a change AND that is the life long process.  There are so many facets to a person AND each and everyone of us is different.

Each and every person has a back story that we may not know of.  Each and every person is entitled to their freedom of speech and action yet we often forget that a conversation is two or more people for that conversation.  That means ALL people are entitled to the same freedoms yet they may come from total opposite sides of the issue. It doesn’t make any one WRONG.

A lot of my positive thinking and affirmations stemmed from the pursuit of healing of a not so positive thought train that was conducted by a not so positive authority figure in my earlier days. That pursuit took over for a long time because I thought something was WRONG with me and I had the power within me to FIX it.  I hid behind the shame, the embarrassment and my weight while driving head long into that meadow trying to change the past.

It was those negative things that shaped my actions (which some call survival techniques) but each and every person has negative things that have shaped their actions. We can’t change those things that happened to us.  We can only change our actions and our re-actions to the situation.  For me, I had to dig deeper into WHY I believed those things.   That task took me right back to the negative that I tried so desperately to change.

But what I discovered was the HUGE disconnect from how my body would react.  It wasn’t just my mind or spirit reacting.

It has taught me that I need to pay attention to all three reactions.

It has been humbling to say the least.

I have learned that I am not WRONG in what I value and believe.

I do not have the power to FIX it but I do have the power to pay attention and create different actions for what I do not like.

and lastly once I discovered the WHY of those things I believed, I can act accordingly.

For so many years, I thought the fix was to lose weight and that just changing how I thought about the weight and my body was all I needed to do.

But I am discovering that I am WORTH something TO ME.   I am WORTH the time and effort that comes only from taking action.  The action of NOT fighting myself or pushing myself to CHANGE things I was not ready to change…not ready to change because I didn’t understand and was not prepared…..   I didn’t have the proper tools in place that matched ALL the parts of me.

The tools I have were out of balance.  Because I didn’t focus on the whole.

Just like writing or saying or thinking a positive thought over and over and over again…

you have to do the actions over and over and over again to get it to change.

But those actions still need to be inline with your values and your core being.

So, I have added action affirmations to the mix – my snacking on movement.

Thought:   I am fat which makes me ugly

Affirmation:  I am beautiful

Thought:  I am beautiful but I am still fat

Affirmation: I am beautiful as I am

Action question:  Yes, I am still fat.  Does that fit into what I value?

Action question: I value my family and friends.  Do I share my full beauty when I dislike that I am fat?  Do I share my full beauty when I set myself aside for their needs?

Action affirmation:  Each day, I will eat a little less, move a little more, and value myself as much as I value my family and friends.

How can you fit a positive action affirmation into your day?

 

**NOTE:  take a positive action to find out more about SOPA-PIPA and how your representative is voting**

**This is also my post for the final Bliss Challenge**